Finding Joy Everyday

11 June 2020

“Success is a journey not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome”.

One of the greatest illusions of our time is the experiencing of joy and one of the greatest desires of our time is the constant seeking of this elusive experience. But why? Maybe it is because most people are seeking the wrong end of the stick and are looking for joy as a destination instead of a journey. Arthur Ashe, the first African American to win the singles title at Wimbledon was famously quoted as saying “Success is a journey not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome”.

Success or joy, in effect are the same creature dressed in different clothes and can be seen from different perspectives.  This is what Arthur is talking about, the creation of cumulative joy instead of just the culmination of joy. The distinct difference is that the culmination of joy is experienced continuously, on every part of the journey and is the sum of its parts, not just experienced at the destination or outcome.

Who has experienced planning a great holiday of a lifetime, then upon arriving coming to the realisation that the destination is only half the journey? Maybe you arrived at your ultimate destination and realised you had missed out on appreciating everything along the way, only because the expectation was all about the final destination? Or going on an amazing bush walk to an incredible view or waterfall only to discover that you were so focused on getting there that you missed out on all the delights along the way. This is because there is so much emphasis placed on achieving the goal at the end, instead of enjoying the journey that we often forget where the real joy exists and miss the experiences along the way, or as Arthur says, “in the doing”.

Being in the present moment and doing everyday activities, be it showing a property, home schooling, talking to clients, taking the dog for a walk or negotiating a deal, they are all opportunities to experience joy. You can choose to see the day as a series of tasks that need to be achieved to attain the goal of getting them done and finishing the day or seeing every day as a journey of positive experiences that you can celebrate and enjoy the achievement in every single moment.

The mindset you bring to each day is the mindset that determines your fulfilment in life, so choose wisely.

 

John Cunningham